Guide
First Date Ideas for Two Women
The best first date is one where you can hear each other, relax and leave easily if it is not right. That usually means somewhere public, short and simple, with something to look at besides each other. These ideas work for lesbian, bisexual, bicurious and queer women alike, and they come with a few ways to keep the first meeting comfortable and safe.
What makes a good first date
Pick a place where conversation is easy and you can leave when you want to. An hour or two is enough. Choose something you would enjoy even if the date did not turn into more, so the pressure stays low.
Six ideas
Easy places to start
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Coffee or tea
The classic for a reason. It is short, public and easy to extend if it is going well.
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A walk
Walking side by side makes talking easier, and a park or waterfront gives you something to point at.
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A bookshop and a drink
Browsing shelves together shows you what the other person is curious about.
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A market or food stall crawl
Sharing small plates keeps things relaxed and gives you plenty to talk about.
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A gallery or museum
Looking at the same thing gives you instant conversation, with no silence to fill.
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A casual game
Mini golf, bowling or a board game cafe lets you laugh together before you have to talk about anything serious.
Before you go
Meet somewhere public, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back, and arrange your own way home. If the other person asks to meet somewhere private straight away, say no. A good date will respect that. See how Sapphic Match helps you stay safe.
After the date
Send a short message if you enjoyed yourself, and say so plainly if you did not. A kind, clear no is better than silence.
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