Guide
How to Meet Other Lesbians
Meeting other lesbians can feel harder than it should, especially outside a big city or if you are newly out. The good news is that there is no single route. People meet through hobbies, through friends, at events and on dating sites, and most find that a mix works best. Here are five places to start, how to make each one count, and how to stay patient while you find your people.
Five places to start
Where to meet other lesbians
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Dating sites
A site built for women who date women means you do not have to guess who is interested, and you can start the conversation from home.
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Hobbies and clubs
Sports teams, book clubs, climbing walls and craft groups bring regular, relaxed contact with people who share an interest.
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Events and meetups
Look for pride events, community nights and local meetups. Going with a friend makes the first visit easier.
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Volunteering
Working side by side on something you care about is a natural way to get to know people.
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Friends of friends
Tell the people close to you that you would like to meet someone. Introductions often come from the least expected places.
Make it count online
Write a profile that sounds like you, say what you are looking for and message people about something specific in theirs. Move to a call or a first date when the conversation feels easy. See what members can do on the features page.
Be patient and be yourself
It can take a while, and that is normal. Try more than one route at once, keep your standards kind and clear, and treat each conversation as a chance to meet someone interesting, whether or not it leads to a date.
Keep reading
More guides for women who date women.